AS...see the thing is I've been totally fine with the pace and amount of time we spend with each other. Where we find ourselves now is solely from her feelings that have only come about once events at her work caused her immense stress. The thought of me breaking up with her as crossed my mind many times, BUT if I did it would completely play into what she expected with her able to say "see I told you so!"
Reality I am Plan D. In her world it goes Work, Family, Herself, me. And right now only Work really gets her time which is very sad. I am happy with her the person, our current time together, BUT her career and her obsessiveness about it has derailed everything in her life.
I do agree though, perhaps the only and best option is for me to end it or at the least suggest we take a break for a while and see how things go over the summer. If her level of work was only temporary then it would perhaps be a different story, but I think she could work 24/7 and still never feel like she was caught up. I've never encountered a person before for whom their work totally consumes their life. It's terribly sad to see as I see her suffering and others who love her do as well as simply put she can't be herself. I can't save her nor fix her either, but as a person who loves her it's very frustrating to clearly see how she could set some boundaries and improve her situation, but she simply won't do it.
