Man, I wish I could stop overthinking! I feel like I am playing a never ending game of three dimensional chess. This is because in the back of my mind, I still think that I can "fix" my wife. I see that she is confused and depressed. Everything in my being wants to help her, but I don't know how. I am the LAST person she wants help from, and I don't really know why that is the case. So, you are not alone in the overthinking. I think every one of us on these forums does it. We wouldn't be here if we weren't overthinkers.
I read the reddit divorce sub reddit, and I am amazed at how different of a place it is compared to here. On that sub reddit, once a spouse says ILYBIANILWY, the LBS immediately accepts divorce. It seems like there is no fighting for the marriage. That is so different from this forum. We are all standing. We are all overthinking.
