LB: it seems like my H's walking away was mostly triggered by thoughts of his impending early retirement in a couple of years time, it's almost like things were looking TOO good and the future was going to be full of (good) change so they blew everything up to sabotage things looking positive. Does that make sense? Sometimes it seems to be a pattern is what I'm thinking. Like you save and plan and look forward to a bright future and then when it's about to happen someone panics and destroys it all. I might be rambling here. Love the idea of your regular Monday shuffleboard and I think you're right about the guilt, your W has a LOT to feel guilty about to be fair
