Picked up my S today from Ws apartment. Lots of temp checking I think? Main thing she asked was, “So should we mediate soon? Have you thought about it more?”. I relied “I haven’t thought about it.” And left it at that. She has asked similar things almost on a weekly basis. Temp check I guess. Trying to stay away from R talks and such so I thought a vague brief reply was good. Before she moved out I used the “that’s not what I want but won’t stop you”. But after using it a few times I think she knows where I stand. Let me know if I should have responded differently.
We discussed S for a few minutes and logistics. She asked if I was out late last night. Gave a vague reply. She expressed that she was feeling sad. I validated. As I was getting ready to leave she brought up 4th of July again. She expressed that she wanted us to do something for the 4th as a family. Stuck to my guns and replied once again, “I do not want to do things as a family anymore because we are not a family anymore.” She replied that yes we still were a family even though we aren’t together. I replied that no, that’s not how it works. If we are not together, we are no longer a family. She then brought up another couple we know who split up but still did family things. I reinforced that I wasn’t interested in that and that if she didn’t want S for 4th of July then I would take him.
