Growing Pains(LB55 thread 4)

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Why do they do that? My exW used to say similar things on how I would find someone else that was great. When I think back, she started saying this during what I think was the denial stage and said it a lot leading up to the D. Funny thing is that once I regained some of my respect from her she has not been talking this way.

Trying to let us down softly to ease their guilt that is deep down inside is my vote. I have been thinking if she had just said I want a divorce, lets get this done, I would have so much more respect for her than the path of deceit and lies that she chose. I have little respect for her as a person, W, or mom at this moment in time. I know there is potential for that to return, but that is directly related to the actions I need to see from her. The ones that are non-existent right now.

Next time she says that I am going to agree wholeheartedly. Do my little one sided smile and walk away.

This is really rough, so sorry you had to go through with this. Also, thank you for your service to our country. People like you deserve better and it is sad when the people you love and trust the most do something like this. As they say they are taken over by some alien monster and not the people we used to know

Thanks it is a tough life.We almost made it too. 21 years of service next month. Almost 16 together, almost 13 M. We had it made; two rental homes that would be paid off, a primary home that was super nice, an income of nearly $8k/month before either of us got out of bed in the morning, and plans to support the kids, travel a lot and show the kids the world while they are old enough to understand a bit more but young enough to see the fun in it too.

Down the toilet right now. I knew something was amiss when I left for the year, and by april she had all new friends(I had never met ANY of them), all her old friends left her high and dry, and then the time for me started dwindling slowly. We talked via email or phone every day. By October it was about once a week. Always too busy. By November it was 'I have something to tell you but not over the phone, don't talk to me anymore', then it was go home at Christmas to the D paperwork.
Very much a frustrating situation for all. Oh well, got to move forward!

Going out for my normal Monday night burger and shuffleboard with the guys from work. I look forward to Monday every single week! How many people say that???