Today I'm thinking of sending H an email, to update him on d3. Considering making this a monthly thing, as he'll be gone until November. It will be sent to his work email, as he will get it right away. Even though everyone else can read these emails, I'd like him to read it sooner than later, as it's been awhile.
When he left for work in mid April (BD in March), he asked that I not send him anything.
Since he asked you not to send anything, you might send him a message first that says something like "I was thinking about sending you a monthly update on D, is that something you would be interested in?" If he says yes, then don't try to turn it into an opportunity to start contact with him. Just send him an update on D and that's all, period. Then do what you say and don't send anything more to him until the next month.
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Stupid question. Is it normal for someone in MLC not to ask how their children?
Unfortunately it is normal. MLCers are some of the most horrible parents out there. They do often completely cut their children completely out of their lives, sometimes permanently. Sometimes years later they decide to try and patch things up, but by then the children resent them so much that they don't want to talk to them. You can send updates but keep in mind YOU CAN'T MAKE HIM A GOOD PARENT. You just can't, it's outside of your control.
