So I don't think I'm quite at the piecing stage but certainly not DBing anymore either.
You are always in the DB stage brother. It is about improving yourself. If you have reached the top of the mountain, let us know how the view is.
That is good news for you that you are able to take a couple steps forward. I agree with steve, knowing details doesn't help move forward. Trusting again is a difficult thing, I am 100% certain if I get to where you are at I will struggle to trust her again. There is a difference in my mind between 'open and honest' vs controlling though. You telling her what she needs to tell you is controlling. Perhaps you could ask her to create a plan that demonstrates her dedication to restoring your trust? That way it is her plan, she puts effort towards restoring the M, and it makes it her plan vice yours. Just a thought I had.
Me40; W38; S12; D9 BD11/19/2018 D filed 12/20/18 D Final 7/2020 Being the best example I know how for my kids to see.
