Wife wants a divorce....

[SteveLW]

Your trying to control her. You're treating her like a child. If you read my threads you'll see I struggled with this too.

Here's the thing, what you said to her above IS NOT TRUE. Stop with the controlling, that's what pushed get into the EA to begin with. So what if she's still in contact with him? Your goal is to be the better option, not control who she's texting with.

And what the heck good is knowing the details of the EA going to do? How is that possibly going to help you get past it?!?

Here's the deal. She's says she wants to work on it. Better yet her actions are showing that. 180 on the controlling behavior and let the EA go. Work on you so that MR 2.0 will have a fair chance with a new Dadhurt. If you do that, there is a good chance the texting of OM will die a slow death. The problem we sometimes fall into as LBHs is trying to find solely on things out of our control. She could stop texting OM today, and start a new EA tomorrow with another OM! What you can control is becoming AMOAFWL! That's how you end EA#1 and prevent future EAs.

And being a whiny wuss about EA#1 ain't being AMOAFWL!

My advice, keep up the dating, stop discussing the EA, keep doing IC to work on you, and stop trying to control your W before you control her right out of the MR!