That's great advice from Blu, I was formulating a reply in my head but she pretty much said everything I was going to
DB'ing isn't a once-size-fits-all approach. You have to tinker with it to make it work for your particular sitch. But at the same time you have to be very careful not to use that personal modifying as an excuse to pursue. It's fine to be polite and friendly but don't cross the line into constantly confirming to him that you are Plan B. You don't have to be cold/ rude/ indifferent but at the same time he needs to feel he is losing you. Like Blu said it's a balancing act. That's why these forums are so helpful, we can let you know if you're going too far
