Thanks Alison.
What you said makes sense. Unfortunately I dont know her so any offering from me would seem creepy.
But in my mind I know what she is going thru, what all of us here went thru.

I remember the calming effect the veterans here had on me when I would come in here all panicked.

Replies starting with:

" Expect this to happen now..."
" Dont believe anything they say.."
"Protect yourself.. "
" You have been given the gift of time.."

helped me immensely.


B.D in December 2018
Physical Affairs discovered in April 2019
Divorced May 2019
H (me) 49
W (her) 29