Destroyd, I couldn’t agree more. Tossed us away as if we were garbage. With our positive changes it will be their loss.
IHC wow man that was really insightful. I think in a lot of these situations the walk aways place way to much responsibility for their own happiness on their LBS. I saw a great quote from will smith the other day:
“Her happiness is not my responsibility. She should be happy and I should be happy individually. Then we come together and share our happiness. Giving someone responsibility to make you happy when you can’t do it yourself is selfish.”
This quote really spoke to me because during our whole R, I was happy. I found new hobby’s, interacted with friends often and was great at GAL. My W did none of these things and spent most of her days watching hours of reality tv after work. No goals, no hobby, very little interaction socially outside of work. But sure, I’m the reason she was unhappy. Bugs me that now we aren’t together she’s GAL but I cannot control others.
Just reading on here as I have an hour before my hockey game. So will do a little update. Since my no cake eating talk with W, there has only been a few texts regarding child exchange. I took a few hours to respond to her due to GAL. Don’t think she liked that lol.
My detachment is coming along well. I’m not really sad much anymore, but it definitely helps that I don’t see her often. My self improvement is going well. I have made so many new friends and get many comments about how different I am in a good way. Less negativity. Way more out going. Last night I wanted to go out with friends but they all decided to stay in. So I called a new friend I made last week and went out dancing. There was a huge group of girls celebrating a birthday. I started talking to them and ended up hanging out with them most of the night. Something I never would have done before BD, but that’s a huge goal of mine. Make new friends, learn more about others. Doing pretty well at it so far. Thanks all.
