Definitely not ganging up on you Dilly, thanks Alison for bringing that perspective; it wasn’t even something I thought about. We are mostly all here to support others while learning about ourselves and we all have our own way of going about it. However we must all do for ourselves what is necessary even if it seems wrong, impossible, or unable to do any good at the current moment. Same for our spouses, they must do for themselves. We didn’t break them; we can’t fix them. We like fixing everything so that is just so tough.
I avoided conflict with my W at LL costs. I always felt like she was trying to pick a fight with me. She probably was. Conflict and disagreements are part of a healthy relationship. If we ever wind up piecing this back together that is a 180 that is worth it, having a different opinion and sticking with it. Self differentiation as Steve85 says. Be yourself. Be strong. Here is a hug.
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Me40; W38; S12; D9 BD11/19/2018 D filed 12/20/18 D Final 7/2020 Being the best example I know how for my kids to see.
