Slowly piecing, D busted (pt 14)

[PsySara]

LB55,
There was no convert contract, I have addressed this with WH multiple times as this couple have come to visit previously. I have directly told him I need his help with our kids during this visit as he has a tendency to act like a teenager (and I am the nagging mom) when I need help with our kids. To frame the days' events, we were supposed to leave at 10 am to beat the crowds and at 9:45 WH decided that he needed to drive 30 mins away to buy specific sinkers to go fishing. I asked him to put off fishing for another day when we didn't have to entertain guests and manage small children, not to mention it was rude to leave our guests waiting. He said he would be back in 30 minutes. He got back at 12 pm. He then asked me, in front of our guests, was I mad and did we need to talk? I calmly told him this wasn't the time to discuss this and we needed to get everyone to the beach.

Once we got to the beach he and his friend spent the next hour setting up fishing gear and then went two separate ways to fish. The other W was also fuming as her husband chose to fish over spending time with his children while on vacation. When we got home the children were exhausted and hungry. I fed the kids and was about to put them to shower and then to bed. WH chose this time to fill the tub and soak himself for 45 mins while the kids waited to bathe. I was past furious at this point as it was an hour past the kid's bedtime and they were scattered with exhaustion. (WH took the only free bathroom as our guests were using the other one.)

When I apologize I do it because I don't want to come off as nagging or point keeping. (a suggestion by my divorce coach) But I am at the point where I am just done trying to be the only one carrying this relationship. I have spoken in plain terms to WH. I have used clear language in what I need. WH's LL is physical contact and I have gone out of my way to give him affection unconditionally. Lately he responds with apathy and as if he's mildly annoyed. There is no reciprocity.