How long did it take her to decide she wanted a separation when you confessed your affair? My observation IRL has noted that most wives decide they want a separation upon hearing about H's affair, or a few days later. However, they don't have the changes you've described about your W (guarding cell phone, wearing more makeup, neglecting family, etc.). Some women have an exit affair or revenge affair.
From this day forward, you need to stop seeing the sitch as some type of payback or punishment for your own affair. Focus on being the man you want to become, and the father you want to be for your child.
Sorry, I was thinking you had an affair, but realized my mistake after sending my previous post. The advice still stands in my previous post.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
