Quick recap

Married 27 years, together 30
Found out about his 18 month affair June 18
Did a fantastic amount of dancing about for 3 months whilst he pretended to want to save the M
finally told him no more Sept 18
He lives alone whilst he and OW now set themselves up as a 'legitimate couple'
Divorce petition issued by me
awaiting his cooperation
financial shennanigans slowly being revealed
financial situation rapidly deteriorating
can't extricate myself
3 fantastic adult sons
1 fantastic dog
several fantastic friends and close family