have you read a lot of the old threads about affair busting? If not, I'd recommend it. IMO you've waited too long to bust the affair. She's moved out. In most people's mind, y'all are separated and she's free to do what she wants. So this affair busting attempt comes off as a controlling, weak attempt to force her back to you. Yet every time she yanks your chain you are there. She comes and goes at your place as she pleases because of.......*drumroll please*...... a horse.
Forget. That. Horse.
And why do you keep going an hunting down evidence about all the OM? What has that accomplished? Seriously, what has that done to help your sitch?
You eat crap on a daily basis and then go looking for more. Why? Move on.
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I just don't see the possibility in meeting any significant marriage goals while the A continues...patience is paramount right now.
Well yea! Anyone could say that. So if you're choice is to wait it out you need to at least PRETEND like you are moving on with life. Get rid of the horse, set a parenting schedule AND stick to it, and then stop talking to her outside of children's logistics. Eliminate all unnecessary conversation. You're trying to keep in touch and keep her coming around the house b/c you think it will get her back.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
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