Persistent Endurance (Part 4)

[curtis7]

I don’t know how you guys do it. If my wife were in an active affair, I would do everything I could to get evidence and expose that for what it was.

Hurt, I’ve got all the evidence anyone would need. The question to ask is what good is it. Exposure will shame them, but it doesn’t necessarily mean they’ll wake up and return to the MR. It also makes the path home significantly more difficult. I used to have a different opinion on spying/snooping in that it was helpful to gather intel. Now, I feel differently b/c every time I find evidence of her cheating it triggers negative and painful emotional responses. It makes me question whether standing for my MR is the right choice. Not good for my psyche nor DBing. I have become more and more numb to her WW and cheating with each discovery. It really makes you think why stay in a R with a person that could betray and hurt you this bad.