Your thoughts are doing this to you. You need to change your thoughts. This is a learned skill. Stop thinking of the past. Stop thinking about what "should" be.
Get yourself in the moment. Wake up, take 5 really deep breaths. Just enjoy the feeling of the breathing. Stay in the moment. Don't think about anything. Get in the shower. Enjoy the feeling of the warm water. Enjoy the smell of your shampoo. If you don't like the smell, throw it away and go shampoo shopping find some you do like the smell of.
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I understand my w love language but unfortunately it is too late.
This is BS. Your brain has to be right. If you believe your statement, then you are right. Challenge this. Tell yourself it is not too late.
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In case you are wondering when I am with my kids I am not like this. When my w is around I am upbeat and fun. Like the saying goes you have to fake it until you make it.
You need to be like this with everyone all the time. That is the KEY!!
Do you ride motorcycle? I am always "present" while riding. Always feels good to stop thinking and just be.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
