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Re: WW wants to reconcile (thread 3)
oops13 #2854930 06/27/19 07:23 PM
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Originally Posted by oops13
This brings up a dilemma for me w.r.t. rock bottom.

I could tell work, and they could get fired. But then she can't pay rent.

Not my problem of course, but would be a real pain in a divorce and it would just make me feel and seem vindictive IMO.


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Re: WW wants to reconcile (thread 3)
oops13 #2854933 06/27/19 07:26 PM
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So leave it be?

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Re: WW wants to reconcile (thread 3)
LH19 #2854938 06/27/19 07:30 PM
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Originally Posted by LH19
Oops,

Can you answer my questions about counseling?


Yes. Its her IC but since stuff blew up she said I could come. They had supposedly been talking about the affair and when and how to confess the last couple of weeks. I dont particularly want to go, but since I said I would Im going to stick to my word. Ill just excuse myself if it seems unproductive or seems like an ambush.

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Re: WW wants to reconcile (thread 3)
oops13 #2854946 06/27/19 07:57 PM
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Oops,

Just be prepared then to sit there and you will be AMBUSHED and have two people tell you it’s all your fault.

It would be very productive because it would be an action that shows she is going to have to work to get you back.
Re: WW wants to reconcile (thread 3)
LH19 #2854958 06/27/19 08:14 PM
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Originally Posted by LH19
It would be very productive because it would be an action that shows she is going to have to work to get you back.
I agree.

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Re: WW wants to reconcile (thread 3)
oops13 #2854967 06/27/19 08:59 PM
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The best way to show her that you’ll stand for yourself is not going there. She must be accountable for her taken course. Get your respect back. Well, it starts today.

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Re: WW wants to reconcile (thread 3)
oops13 #2855039 06/28/19 01:21 PM
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As far as work goes, should I tell them? Things are amicable right now and that would be preferable in a divorce situation. No way Ill try to reconcile w him working here though.

My first inclination is to leave it alone for now.

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Re: WW wants to reconcile (thread 3)
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Originally Posted by oops13
As far as work goes, should I tell them? Things are amicable right now and that would be preferable in a divorce situation. No way Ill try to reconcile w him working here though.

My first inclination is to leave it alone for now.


Illusion of action. How does it help? Does telling work mean you are attached or detached?

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Re: WW wants to reconcile (thread 3)
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10-4. I still dont know what I want to do. Shes trying on the surface. The betrayal might be too much for me to forgive.

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Re: WW wants to reconcile (thread 3)
oops13 #2855057 06/28/19 03:09 PM
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Oops,

Relax and breathe. Your answer to everything should be I need time to think.
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