How can the LBS know they want to R unless they get a little closer to the WS and see what is on offer? How can the WS decide if they do want to R unless they get a little closer to the LBS and see what has changed?
This is why R sounds so daunting and impossible to me. As you put it so well, it doesn't work if you go into the process assuming it is a return to the old MR. It *has* to be like dating somebody new, which also includes starting off without M expectations. Incredibly awkward when you have a long history with somebody...
You also put it so well that both the LBS and the WAS need to see what is on offer, and what has changed? My W has been clear in MC what has hurt her so much, and I do hope over time to address those hurts. But I also need to see that she is willing to come to the table, and I need to understand whether she is going to approach this with an open heart and mind, or else this will not a relationship worth pursuing for me. What keeps me positive is at least we are in MC where I can assess whether things are changing over time, or whether she continues to blame me 100% for the MR failure.
