WW are master manipulators using words to get what they so desperately want. That’s why we always preach on here actions.
You are operating under the “illusion of action” where you feel you need to do something to wake her up (kicking her out/filing for divorce) to see what she’ll be missing and giving up. Unfortunately, time and space are the only thing that does that and lasts. Right now she’s on the affair high and likely not coming down anytime soon.
Respect yourself and take some time to think about what you want to do moving forward.