WW wants to reconcile (thread 3)

[LH19]

I texted to let her know I fed the dogs and threw in that I hoped she was okay.

I wouldn't of done that you are pursing her when it should be the other way around. She should be asking if your ok.

She replied that she was okay and looking for an apartment.

Look at her actions.

I asked if all this is what she wanted, and she said no, but that shes a train wreck, that I deserved better. I told her I agreed that I deserve better and will not share a wife, and that I didn't understand how someone I'd adored could cause immeasurable pain.

I would have said we definitely need some time apart.

At this point, she started apologizing for hurting me, told me she knows her words have no meaning now, and that she doesn't recognize herself anymore. She will give me any space I need. I told her she didn't have to hide and she said she will be around however much I want.

I would have said I definitely need some time and space to think.

Her words have shown remorse - she owns that it was her choice, she understands if I want to divorce her but she wants to reconcile. She confessed the gory details and told me all the hard stuff. Shes spent the last few days trying to move to her apartment and has been very remorseful.

Again her moving to an apartment is actions. Her words mean nothing.

I dont know what I'm really doing right now. I'm feeling it all for the first time now that it's in the open. Her stuff is in boxes. I love her but she has to be out for a while to let me think.

We are here to help. First off stop pursing her! She needs to be in the mindset of I will do whatever takes to make this work. Right now I am not buying it.