No, neither of us has filed. If I know H as I think I do, he'll bury his head in the sand and do nothing unless I file myself first. We did make an agreement on how to handle finances that I was happy with, but it's a handshake gentleman's agreement, nothing legal - and I am not sure how I feel yet about having to trust he wlll meet those responsibilities. If he doesn't, then I will need to either tolerate that type of cake-eating, or file myself, and I'm not there yet. I know I am determined, but underneath the determination I am deeply hurt and I want to work on that and resolve it or come through it first, so I am not making legal decisions with anything other than a rational head. I don't feel rushed. The emotional bond Is broken, I think. It's sad and I need to grieve it, but it is also freeing.
I guess I'm just very very disappointed. I did believe, even though I tried not to, that what he said about prioritising us and the marriage repair once May was over was what he'd do. And of course that hasn't happened - I still think he wants to be able to do it, but he can't. And I think the best thing I can do is get out the way so he can realise on his own that the fact that he can't is to do with him and not me. He can have that realisation or not, he can respond to realising it - if he does - in whatever way he chooses. But none of that is to do with me. I suspect arguing with me distracts him from what's really going on with him, so in a way the kindest and most loving thing I can do is get out the way and let him have his fight with himself.
