I am a little confused. You mention that you are kicking yourself for allowing the cake eating, but he is still staying in the home in the guest room. Is there a way that you can create some boundaries that protect you from this? I feel like if someone wants to leave their family, claim they want D, then they should stay somewhere else and start actng as if they are D. Do you think he knows what it feels like to actually lose you and family time? Would he begin to miss that?

Blu

“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela