Thanks y'all I appreciate the sounding board. I know it can be hard to advise online. To pull a classic card I blame monthly hormones :)~ Feeling much more me today thankfully.
Blu your last sentence made me lol for sure. They really do seem to follow a script in so many ways. I have to say I think overall it's easier to deal in these situations with the S out of the house. At least in my sitch. WAY less drama.
Me: 36 H: 37 M: 16 T: 17 Kids: S15 D14 D11 BD: July '18 OW confirmed Nov '18 (he told me) H moved out Jan '19