Yo M....thanks, I feel very settled at the moment. It just re-affirms that everything is only temporary, the good and the bad. You can't get too high and you can't get too low. I try to stay neutral the best I can.
Things are settled with the XW. I only see her at kid events. We do sit next each other usually with one or both of the girls sitting between us. Kid exchange is still usually only 5 minutes max. I do not hang around and engage in idle chit chat. I do get the impression that she would like to though. I still just keep it quick and to the point. I have still not met her BF I kind of thought that once she found out about the Dr. that it might open her up to make that happen but not yet. The only time I reach out to her is for kid stuff. If it's not kid related we don't talk unless she talks to me about her life which she does do from time to time. If she initiates then I will be polite and listen, make comments, etc. but I am still not the one to initiate. So still very much following my DBing principals just because I don't have any desire for anything else with her. I am not rude, angry, mean or anything like that there I just don't have a desire for anything more. We do joint birthday parties with the kids. We also have some mutual family friends that have had parties were we both attended as well.
I still think back to all the crap she pulled when she moved out and initiated the D combined with some of the things she and told me. When I think about all that it re-affirms the position I have taken which is less is more and why would I want to be friends with someone who treated me the way she did. It's not out of anger it's out of self-respect. I learned a lot.
