You do what works and toss out the things that don't work. It doesn't hurt to text her once in a while to see how she responds.
She may slowly calming down a bit, but she's still in replay/depression and maybe withdrawal. You have to remember, it's not one step by step, they can have several stages going on at the same time, i.e., the stages are not linear. So until she's actually doing some of the things that Peace mentioned more frequently, I would still keep the focus on you and give her the space she requires.
Please keep in mind that the stages and time frames are just a guide....no two people are alike and each one can do similar things, but yet be different in other areas.
Keep the focus on you and your kids.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
