I have a question for those of us in MC. I know that this is not the ideal place to be for DB, but many of us are doing it. If that is the case, do you guys have any tips for making the most of it?
I have come to the realization that my wife is not really interested in using MC as a means to fix the relationship. She is not at all committed to fixing it even though she says she is. I assume the reason that she is saying that she is trying to fix it is, 1) to give herself time to think about what she wants (I don't think she really knows), and 2) to ease the guilt of walking away from the marriage.
It seems like reason 2 is a common one. I wonder if there is a statement us LBS should be using for this. If they are not really committed to using the MC to fix the relationship, then they should still feel guilty. I wonder if we should say this during the MC session. What are your thoughts on this? And what other tips could you give for making the most out of the MC sessions?
BTW, I have reduced our MC sessions to once a month. I feel they are not very helpful, so they are like just ripping a bandaid off and tearing open a scab every session.
