Persistent Endurance (Part 4)

[MrBrside]

Curtis,

I replied to your post in my thread.. I have thought from your intial posts, that out sitchs are very similar ( as are a lot on here to be fair ) - but you still seem to be stuck in limbo IMO..

If you read Sandis post ( For Newcomer LBH with a wayward ) on Cadets list, she quotes

She has to suffer some type of loss (due to her decisions) in order to shake her from her fantasy fogC,

and as LH19 says, even if this ends the affair, it may not result in your R surviving..

Your WW has suffered no loss and looks like she doesnt care anyway. She is cake eating to the extreme and rolling over all in her path - You, your children, the men in her life.. She doesnt care.

These factors have probably resulted in even less respect for you. ( has she has shown ) - sorry to be blunt.

my S8 said a few things that set me off. First, he said that mom is texting all the time when they are at her separation house. I can't stand them being neglected and plopped down in front of the TV when she is in smartphone fantasyland. He also told me the name of OM3. I did some research on him after downloading a free pseudo-background check app. Turns out he has a court record from a few years ago for domestic violence against a female. This made me concerned about the safety of my W and children. I'm debating whether to let WW know, but she has always told me that she's a big girl and can take care of herself. Second,

One of the vets on here posted recently that the site members are often logical and rational.

Your WW isnt thinking like that - her life / decissions and choices are 100% emotional. There is no logic to it. In your world 5 +5 =10. In her emotional state, anything goes and 5 + 5 will never equal 10.. Again, Sandi highlights this in her Newcomer post. Your WW probably wont care that OM3 has a record... Look at the media.. People fall for people with bad reputation and a violent past all the time. Convicted fellon Jeremy Meeks ended up with a billionairs daughter !!! I'm sure she wasnt thinking with logic when she jumped into bed with him, or bothered he had done time for assault.
Any decent father would worry about their children, but your WW wont appriciate you chipping it - you cant control it.

As for why - google "affair down" or "why do they affair down"... Affairing down is common.. Your WW isnt looking for a provider / nice guy.. She had it all but went WW... She now wants a lover... Regardless of the damage.