That's so true, Dilly. And I wonder if it's the reason why we women get into such hot water when we try validating our socks off. It might be better advice for men, who (vast, probably unfair generalisation alert!!) perhaps are sometimes more likely to have a history of ignoring or dismissing or not understanding the feelings and emotional experiences of their wives. But women are socialised into performing that service from the cradle. Perhaps we women need to concentrate a bit more on saying no and setting boundaries - something that, as you say, we're often illequipped to do.
