Adam,

Give it time. When she is sure, she will tell you she wants to sit down with kids and update them. Until then, it may be too much pressure.

I don't think you're moving too fast. Have you talked to friends or clergy in real life? What do they say?

H 34
W 29
BD 3/12/18
Divorce Busted Spring 19

It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.