"What are the chances that she is going to make the radical changes in her life and lifestyle necessary to achieve balance and free up adequate time and emotional capacity for a R with you, in addition to everything else she has going on?"
so actually pretty good. workaholic was the wrong word for me to use. she works for a small company she cares deeply about that is dealing with personnel losses and lack of leadership. much like the cartoon where a boat springs leeks and the character tries to plug all the holes, that is her presently. she's been actively in IC regarding this issue for a long time and has been challenged by her IC to move the balance more to her time and further away from the demands of work, but given how she feels for this company it's a struggle for her. additionally, she's now at the mid point of her career in a niche industry that is fulfilling to her, BUT if she were to want to do something else, she as yet has no idea what that might be and I think she would miss her present line of work. lastly, she's apologetic to a fault as she knows clearly how her work demands limit her time for her family, herself and for her R with me. she feels guilty, but also stuck with no clear way out and basically is expecting that I'll run out of patience and bail out on her.
appreciate the comments from all of you. for sure I will give her time and space, enjoy settling into my place with D4 and see how this unfolds.
