I shall have both lamb and lipstick thread 6

[97Hope]

Sorry for your struggle, you are not alone. Sometimes anger forces us to make good changes if we get to the heart of where it's coming from. You won't always feel this way. I know this because you are dealing with it and not telling yourself to just stop feeling it, but actively working through it. I'm encouraged by your self-awareness!!!

My youngest (17 only S still at home) is incredibly angry and hurt by H, but he acts 'as if'. It's a little heartbreaking. I listen and validate but have completely stepped out of 'fix-it' mode.

It's no wonder you get tired of doing all the parenting when it seems that H is on some type of soul vacation, but it really is H's loss. Even the mundane and tough parts of parenting are missed when they leave home as adults. When I start to get frustrated at my H - I realize that I would not trade places with him for anything. Honestly, as bad as this is, and as much as it hurts sometimes, I'm not blowing up my family and acting like an alien has possessed me. That's not to sound judgmental, I do have compassion for the guy, but I would not want to be living his life right now. He's a mess and it sounds like yours is, too.

hugs