I think she was a very slow one to enter the crisis because she may have been on the outer edge of the crisis for quite some time and didn't begin to fully enter it until 2016.
What makes you think that replay is ending? From your previous description, she still sounds like she's in a bit of replay and ensuring that you are still out there. Sure, she may have done some activities w/you, but it doesn't sound like she's ready to let the crisis life go. She hasn't fully withdrawn from you, the kids or the things that she was/is interested in. The deep, dark depression isn't a pretty sight and your description doesn't give me any indication that she's fully experienced withdrawal.
Just my two cents.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
