so short and sweet I think me and new girl are done. simply put she's a workaholic, unable to establish for herself a balance between work, her family and time for herself. recently she's experienced high levels of work stress and while she tells me that she has fallen in love with me and everything about our relationship to date has been wonderful, right now she finds herself wanting more time by herself than with me. she will tell goodnight and that she loves me, but yet she feels she needs to work on herself and try to find a balance.
i have not been pushing for us to move at a faster pace or spend more time together. given we both are single parents when we have our children basically dictates when we can see each other. also i truly do understand how she could say she values more time by herself than with me as between her work being essentially 24/7 and being a single mother, she basically never has much time for herself. the real issue is work, obviously it's her livelihood and so not something she can snap her fingers and magically bring it into balance with the other demands/desire for her time, but i think she actually spends an inordinate amount of time above and beyond what is necessary or healthy for her to meet her work demands.
i'm supportive of her, once again as with my WW i find myself having to give her space and wondering what is going to happen. i'm torn between being more direct and expressing to her my confusion over what is happening and my feeling hurt OR keeping my mouth shut, giving her some time and swallowing whatever hurt i'm feeling from this. long term this is not a viable way for us to be. at incidents of work stress or life events for a healthy relationship neither one of us can simply recuse ourselves from our relationship and be off by ourselves. sadly i don't know where this is going to go, but i'm hoping for the best.
for now this is a vent of my current feelings on this. i plan to do what i know is all i can do, give her space, focus on myself and my D4, live my life for me and see how this ends up. thoughts/comments/suggestions are welcome.
