Persistent Endurance (Part 4)

[curtis7]

My question was about the horse.. Can she not keep it elsewhere.. In my personal sitch, everything changed for the better once my WW was gone from the home and contact was minimal ( ie collecting the children ) . Really helps in detachment... It is probably not that simple until Divorce etc, but again if she persists down this route, do you really want to be keeping her horse / seeing her daily if / when she finally moves in with one of these guys. It does seem like cake eating extreme..

She stated in her financial disclosure/ asset split email in early May that she would start looking for a place to keep her horse, but would not move it until her name was no longer on our property. It does make it more difficult to detach when she comes around daily. Then she is texting and taking pictures of herself and the horse to send to her OM while on our property. I try to be away from home GAL when she comes over or busy working on projects so I don’t have to witness the shenanigans. It certainly is extreme cake eating. If D is pursued, the horse is gone and will not be staying at my place.

I completely understand if you have sentiment torwards a helpless horse who didn't asked to be involved with all this. I say offer her three choices with a deadline. Either W finds a stable/area for her horse by xxx date, she pays you nominal rent for horse at your place, or you sell horse to a neighboring farm.

If love is conditional, if marriage is contractual, then actions should have consequences.

Horse arrangements are a consideration in the plan as my sitch plays out. I’m not vindictive to sell her horse, but will urge her to take it away if the D process begins.

I doubt she has felt much in the way of consequences for her actions so far other than logistical inconveniences of driving 10 minutes each way to shuffle kids and care for the horse.