First off, sorry you are here - this forum is very helpful so keep posting. Definitely read the Welcome Thread, especially the ones on Sandi's 37 rules, Detachment, and Validation. And try to discreetly get a copy of DR and hide it from your W.
Don't initiate any R talks, your W sounds very determined with her decision right now. It will only reinforce her mindset.
I would say absolutely do not move out. Good instinct.
In addition to the life events you mentioned, are there issues between you and your W that may have contributed to her wanting to walk away?
