So so new to this :(

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Hi Nyla

Im not sure I would want to deal with the fog/storm/no food on the island but it sounds like you made it through and grew front he experience

Im so glad you checked the credit card so you can see he probably will have spending issues as most MLCer do
so you can protect yourself and all the money he has spent on hotels?

As for the kids, Its good they they can feel comfortable talking with you and I would keep any conversations about H and OW very neutral and use every stalling technique under the sun for allowing them to go to his apartment at all
They don't want to and that should be enough for now-
I would talk to D 14 only in neutral ways about his

Divorce sometimes happen..
people grow apart
Its not his fault
He still loves you
He may just be going through a rough transition
People sometimes have MLC and mental issues
We can't help him
We can lovingly let H go
His relationships are not our business as this time
we wish them the best
we are a family and that is enough

My kids just accepted these statements
maybe they formed their own conclusions but we never needed to discuss it
My xh kept OW away from us and then after about 2 years they married and moved to another area
We have no contact except an occasional message from OW to me or his sisters stating how miserable her life it with him
I think they D and got back together but I lost touch or care about it
I never respond