There is some really good advise from AS you are getting so let it soak in. Don't forget to go back and re-read, it really helps drive the points home.
Something jumped out at me that I thought I might raise with you - you posted:
Originally Posted by HrtHsbnd
This is what has been so hard for me to do. Because I’ve been trying to be so apologetic, I’ve let her run all over me. She knows I am definitely alpha, but I just haven’t been acting like it because I messed up.
Alphas are alpha 100% of the time IMHO. It is so engrained that they know no other way. I totally believe you when you say you have alpha traits. I'm on your side man. But we have to face facts - moving out was a beta move. Getting ordered by the court to move the eff out AGAIN- that is a beta result and a ding on your rep even if you fought it - you lost. So is over-apologizing - beta. Spinning is beta.
You can grab the wheel of your sitch anytime and drive the bus. You can't control W but guess what she can't control you either, so don't let her. Regain your alpha posture.
