I need to work on my listening and validation skills. I also need to find ways to encourage my wife to talk about these things. She is so afraid of conflict that she never communicates. Do you guys have any advice on how I can create situations where I can work on these listening and validations skills with her? How can I get her to talk about these things more freely?
She says that I am defensive and I need to always win these discussions. I don't think this is true, and I think she is just making this up because she is grasping at things to justify her walking away. But, there is probably truth in how we each feel about this.
My wife and I still talk every day, and we are nice to each other. I have been steering away from raising R discussions, but is it possible to steer into these types of discussions where I can show her that I am working on this?
