Had a moment to be annoyed that he's wasting the money on her when he claims he's unhappy and thinks about breaking up with her. But then I reminded myself I went out last night and had a great time. And if he wanted to be with me he'd make the choice and be here.
If he doesn't like being around her then things will continue to deteriorate the more he sees her. So I wouldn't sweat that too much. The fact that he sees her at all is reason enough for you to want nothing to do with him right now.
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Been reading a lot about "wayward fog" and how it pertains to the affair. Is there ever a point the LBS can or should speak to the wayward to say "hey you have another choice."?
No, that's a "temperature check" and just reassures him you are still Plan B. Plan B never gets moved to Plan A. You have to cease to be an option before he realizes what he's lost.
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Or is the best advice to still leave them to their own devices let go and "hope" they make the choice to turn back?
Yes.
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I definitely love the phrase my marriage may be in limbo but I am not.
