Am I doing this right??

[Goddess8]

Was told by family this afternoon H went out of town about an hour away this weekend with friends and of course OW. Had a moment to be annoyed that he's wasting the money on her when he claims he's unhappy and thinks about breaking up with her. But then I reminded myself I went out last night and had a great time. And if he wanted to be with me he'd make the choice and be here. What really made me laugh was no more than 15-20 mins after talking to sil (and i know she didnt say anything to him about talking to me) H text me asking if kids needed anything from the mall. I said no. It reminded me of when he used to leave last year at the begining of all this. He'd go be with OW (before i knew about A) be gone for a couple days and of course no contact. Then whenever he'd be on the way home he'd text asking if we needed anything from town. Most of the time I said no. But sometimes I did need something so I'd have him get it. There was even a couple times he'd come home with a surprise for me. Nothing major but something he'd seen that he thought I'd like.


Been reading a lot about "wayward fog" and how it pertains to the affair. Is there ever a point the LBS can or should speak to the wayward to say "hey you have another choice."? Or is the best advice to still leave them to their own devices let go and "hope" they make the choice to turn back? I definitely love the phrase my marriage may be in limbo but I am not.