Heartbroken and Struggling - Part 2

[LB55]

Now you guys have me questioning myself and whether I did the right thing. I have felt like I never stand up for myself ever since BD. I feel like I have become a pushoever. So, when she was upset with me over this miscommunication, it really aggravated me, and I thought I should tell her about it in a mild mannered way. But now, you have me feeling like I should have just ignored her texts. But then we never would have talked, and I feel she still would have been mad at me over the situation.

Don’t worry about the past or what you did or didn’t do. Won’t make a hoot of difference.

You needed to tell her. She didn’t ask for you to tell her. That’s a big difference.

If you ask what she needs from you and be perceptive;
H: “you seem frustrated, is that how you are feeling?”
W: “yes I’m very frustrated”
H: “That must be tough. What do you need?”

She may then return serve and ask you how you feel about it. Then you can tell her mild mannerly how it upset you. None of that is pushover behavior. It’s just being a kind human being that shows emotional intelligence and empathy.

Being a pushover is when she calls you a worthless POS and tells you to get the F out and you lower you head in shame and say “yes my love. Tell me when to come home Princess. Can I get you anything while I’m out that will make things more comfy for you here in the palace?”