You say she is uncomfortable with conflict. How are you ay handling criticism?

I’m recovering from the need to have others perceive me as perfect, and a big part of that is validating others’ feelings about being upset with me.

Try validating without defending yourself. If you do it consistently enough, you might see a change in how she brings up issues.


Me: 44
H: 44
Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10
Together/Married: 22 years
H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16
H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16