That sounds like my situation, but without the floor. Wow.

In-laws can definitely hurt relationships. Mine decided to move in when my son was born 5 years ago and they never left.

Originally Posted by LB55
Originally Posted by Destroyd
I found out that my in laws know about our marriage problems. I am not sure exactly what my wife has told them, but I am really hurt that they haven't reached out to give me any comfort. I have known them for over 20 years. What have your experiences with your inlaws been like through your problems? Do you think I should talk to them? I haven't because I am scared my wife will view it as me trying to use them to make her feel guilty and pressured.


I don’t think this is a good idea. Her family is her family. They will side with her most every time. Mine never viewed me as good enough for their daughter. I’m in the military, W wanted to have a family; they wanted her to be a politician and be married to a powerful Fortune 500 CEO. So even though I make over 6 figures, we have 3 houses, were setup for life financially; it was never good enough.

So imagine when she told them she wanted out, that I abused her and the kids, that I never let her spend any money, etc...the whole rewriting history thing...they are now bankrolling her divorce so she doesn’t have to pay for it, they come over and take care of the house for her, watch the kids every time she has something going on, etc. They don’t feel One bit of empathy for me, or would they attempt to help me in any way. She is the victim and I am the criminal.

In order to see my kids when this first went down, I was required to go to her parents house, sit on the floor and stay within a small square so they could provide proper supervision of me with the kids. They were armed. It was the most uncomfortable thing I’ve ever had to do. They would be the last people I would call for help, and they certainly wouldn’t be interested in helping me with anything after what “I’ve done to their daughter”.

I struggle to imagine many scenarios in which the in-laws would help a LBS, but my view is pretty jaded.