I believe you still have one more week in hometown. Do enjoy the time - all this stuff can wait - really.
I hope your anger has subsided and you and kids have talked a bit more. Nyla, you are an awesome role model for them. Consider this event, consider how ever you handle it, your kids will be learning some really valuable lessons.
My XW flaunted her affair and adultery. At one point early on she came to the house to discuss getting divorced and told us that 30 minutes ago she and OM just had sex. Really? So a quick shower, pull on some jeans, and come over here. I didn’t want to know that, and I’m sure my son really didn’t need that seared into his mind either.
MLCer do stupid immature rebellious stuff. And they will blame anyone and everyone for any consequences that arise from their stupidity. There really isn’t any reasoning with someone in that state. Just got to let them be, give them space, and protect you and yours.
Once your back, and calm (which I am pretty sure you will find quickly, you are a logical thoughtful gal), you can look into some further legal options. You can look into further discussions with H, and the setting of boundaries. You can decide what course of action you want to take. By the way, you can take more than one - don’t want to make it seem like it’s either or.
If may be a little bold. Before making a decision it is a good idea to get feedback from here. You have many people here who follow you, and care about you and your situation - I am one of them. If you want, you can see if someone else has experienced any pitfalls or problems when implementing their own similar decisions. They may even have a different solution you’ve never considered.
Nyla, I hope you realize you are doing alright. Please know you are not alone in all this. At times it does get rather overwhelming, remember to breathe, and keep putting one foot in front of the other while you walk this most difficult path.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
