LH apart from the 1st week after BD I don’t believe I’ve done much chasing. Cake eating yes but not initiated by me. I still feel the same as last night and I think I will speak with my lawyer Monday. Yes I understand it is most likely projection.
IHC she has said things along the lines of, “I don’t think we can ever date people because they would be jealous of how we get along”, most likely her just trying to control. Looking back now I remember a few times pre BD where she would ask me “who are you texting?”, and went through my phone looking for things to find. We never did this before and I think you are right that she is projecting what she was guilty of doing.
She made a comment a week ago that “if you’re having sex with OP that’s fine but if you’re seeing someone seriously let’s just file”, this I think was projection of her sleeping with people and at the same time trying to influence me to not date anyone seriously and stay as her back up plan.
IHC yeah it’s crazy and frustrating that they start behaving in ways we wanted after they leave. I guess you’re right and they just wanted to do that alone or with someone else.
Just kind of fed up at this point. I’ve had hope for the past few months and I know the S hasn’t been long but this type of relationship isn’t okay with me and isn’t healthy. I feel I was hoping to see progress but am now just being strung along and she tries to find her new man/get to know new men.
