Yay for little G..good for her. About her dad...she knows who he is and she struggles with it. She loves him because he's daddy, but, she sees what she sees and being so intuitive, it is hard for her.
She will get what she does from that relationship and thrive because of you.
About M...your reactions to his actions come from a place of fear instead of a place of strength.
Until you know deep in your soul that you are worthy, you will continue to feel as you do. That's the bottom line. While I would be devastated if something were to happen between me and R, I would be ok. I have walked through the toughest of storms and made it. So, I would make it through again. The reason I feel that way is because I know who I am and that I am enough.
That is not to say that your feelings about this relationship arent valid. They are. Wanting to spend more time with him and feeling that he is vested...nothing at all wrong with that.
But...you cant change him. Nor can you make him want to give more. That has to come from inside him.
So, your choices are to either allow this to unfold in his timeframe and accept that and be good with it or decide if that is what YOU want.
The thing is that until you are ok with you, you will continue to feel as you do. His actions have to do with him. Your reactions are on you.
He is showing you what he wants and what he is capable of. You are either ok with it or you're not. But you need to stop making excuses as to why he is who he is.
You have the right to feel as if you want more...without a doubt. If he isnt giving you what you need, then you have a decision to make. But the most important thing to know is that you matter. Your feelings matter. You deserve to have what you want because you are worthy of it and anyone is lucky to have you.