LH 19 is also right about the projection. My w immediately upon separation tried to set the rules and terms of Engagement that we would not date during the separation, and asked me if I was seeing anyone. She also stated that if I slept with anyone that that would be the deal-breaker. I never even brought up the subject she did. That was my red flag right there that something happens but I never got proof on it. She also said things that I hope you find someone that's the more compatible with you, and started romanticizing scenarios in the future where we would both attend barbecues Divorced with other people and be okay with it. Most of the time Halsey it's in their nature to grasp another hand before letting go of another, or what they call Monkey branching. Most of them do this from my research and my own personal experiences after five relationships. it is the only logical explanation of why they would turn cold overnight and then literally try to push you not only out of their heart but also out of their lives and out the door. they hide it very well for the sake of being slut shamed as a woman in our society. They want all the new experiences all the fuzzies and tingly, all the new sense of purpose, and new men as well. My w always used to play for kid around with me and accuse me of cheating. I never took it seriously, because I was never that insecure, until I got bomb dropped. Now I wonder if she was projecting that as well This is a part of the depression, and lack of sense of self, whether they are cheating or not and whether they are projecting or not. We have a one-and-a-half-year-old and she separating from me as well. Most sane people have told me that this is not normal. But of course the W blames it all on me for whatever made up reasons. I say whatever let them learn the consequences of their actions they will eventually maybe I'll be happy and maybe they won't I really don't care it's their life let them live it. As long as my son isn't adversely affected I get to raise in my way on my time
