BG, I was actually expecting you to be the one to BD after all that!
Ditto!
botanygirl, so sorry you're going through this.. again.
Originally Posted by "botanygirl"
he announced he was done. He feels we don’t have the same approach to parenting and we don’t agree on most things and he just doesn’t like me at all. He wants to be away from all of it.
Originally Posted by "botanygirl"
He has no intention of leaving or breaking up our family. We have both been through it once before so I don’t think either one of us wants to give up
I'm trying to reconcile these two statements. Is he done, or are you about done?
Originally Posted by "botanygirl"
I tried to massage it and said we all played a part in the dysfunction but secretly I knew he was a big part of the problem.
That's what is unfair about fixing a relationship to me, too. I feel, and my therapist feels, my "partner" has a huge role in why she and I argue. But ultimately, if I want her and I to get better, I have to do the self work. There would be nothing wrong with saying, "No, I'll look for a partner who's equally committed".
I agree you deserve to be feel loved and fulfilled, too. May you find that!
